I haven’t really been following the ex-Destiny’s Child member as she embarks on her solo career, but this song left me with my mouth open…not for the same reason though. The music video is full of vibrant, popping colors and has over 9 million views. So in terms of being artistic, I liked that aspect of it. The lyrics didn’t make me uncomfortable per say, but this is not something that I would want my parents to catch me listening to. Ever.
I’m not going to slap Kelly Rowland on the wrist- she likes her kisses down low. She has no shame, and this isn’t something that any woman should ever feel ashamed about. I applaud her for having the courage to tell us information that I would personally classify as TMI. As a woman, it’s liberating. However, this is another example of talented women lowering themselves by feeling the need to sing about “sleazy” and “trashy” material. (Don’t even get me started on Rihanna…) Then again, if Trey Songz can rap about women who “Say Aah” and not be condemned for it, surely Kelly Rowland can sing about “Kisses Down Low”. (Trey Songz’s music video had over 33 million views.) Same job, different mouth. When a man does the talking, women are expected to either turn the other cheek or shake their cheeks. The media glorifies men and their songs about sexual pleasure that straight up degrades women. But when women talk back, they are criticized for it. It’s so messed up how we choose to deal with sex in the media.
So what’s next? Let’s talk about sex, baby. Back in the day, Salt-N-Peppa weren’t afraid to bring up the hop topic in front of their listeners. They never held back, also telling men to “push it real good“. The difference was that when they talked about it, they were informing the public for the greater good. Salt-N-Peppa were making a statement, as well as raising awareness for something that is…well, normal. But when it comes to the media, sex is more than a casual activity- it’s a social taboo. How can we be properly educated if we are constantly kept in the dark about this stuff? I’m still not entirely sure where I stand on the whole censoring sex in the media issue, but I would much rather listen to people talk about aspects of their sex lives than violently killing each other. If people don’t want to hear it, they always have the option to turn it off.
Sex happens, get under it or get over it.
“Let’s talk about sex for now to the people at home or in the crowd
It keeps coming up anyhow
Don’t decoy, avoid, or make void the topic
Cuz that ain’t gonna stop it
Now we talk about sex on the radio and video shows
Many will know anything goes
Let’s tell it how it is, and how it could be
How it was, and of course, how it should be
Those who think it’s dirty have a choice
Pick up the needle, press pause, or turn the radio off”